Miss Travel - the travel dating website

Unlike other dating websites, this offers free travel for “beautiful people”. I know that they are trying to make this a classy website that is supposed to pair “generous people” (meaning people with money) with “attractive people” (meaning those who fit their standard of beauty). All I can think is that it is pairing people with more money than friends and people who agree that they should be rewarded for being born with pleasing features.

At first I thought that I might be suffering from sour grapes since I know that I probably do not fit media standards of what is beautiful. I look good enough, but I look nothing like the women shown on their home page. But then I realized that my main issue with the website is that it is essentially an escort service. I like the website tries to make it sound like this is all about matching travelers so that people do not have to travel solo. If this was really about pairing people with similar interests to see a city or share a vacation, they would have left off the part about the fact that the most important quality of the travel companion is their looks.

The people who will use this “travel dating” or matchmaker service will probably be middle age pudgy, balding, rich men with the type of personalities that make it difficult for them to function in most social settings. The website said that the travel companion has to be beautiful but made no such similar demands on those funding aforementioned travel excursions. Since the website is called Miss Travel, it stands to reason that the majority of the benefactors would be male. As it seems that this is supposed to be a dating service that facilitates the happy-ever-after ending, I would not be surprised if these girls are looking to be the eye candy for a sugar daddy that is financially secure enough to fund whatever they fancy for the long term. The guys might be looking for love with a  beautiful person, but the girls are probably looking for big bank accounts.

With so much emphasis placed on the travel companion’s outer beauty, I wonder what kind of conversation will be had during the travels. I am not saying that intelligent people cannot be beautiful, but I have a hard time imagining that a smart pretty person would allow such objectification based solely on their appearance.

There can be no illusions during the trip. Each side knows how they arrived where they are. And I am sure it has to be a blow to the ego of the generous companion to know that this person who is considered “beautiful” would not give their generous benefactor a second glance if it had not been for fact he is paying for everything.

And on a baser level, since the generous companions are providing an all inclusive paid vacation for the beautiful person, what else might they think their payment entitles them to receive? It would be illegal for the website to imply the possibility that the generous companion might expect sex as part of the bargain. I would be interested to know if they are sharing hotel rooms on the vacation. If so, in a roundabout way, that beautiful person sold their body for a vacation in a popular locale. After it is all over, he has the pictures and a story to tell his friends and she has to answer at least one question, “Was it worth it?”

 

 

 

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This is news???

http://www.newser.com/story/137364/facebook-makes-us-feel-bad-about-our-lives.html

I think that Facebook makes me feel better about my life. But I was never one of those people that was always looking at others thinking that I want what they have. I like my life. I try not to be a follower, looking at the “Jones” and trying to keep up with what they are doing. If there is something that I want, it should not be because someone else has it. I should want it because it fits into what I like for my situation.

http://www.newser.com/story/137373/overweight-people-should-pay-more-to-fly.html
I agree that grossly overweight people should have to pay more. I do not like being squeezed in my seat because Tubby next to me. However, I do not agree that 165 pounds is normal size and everything over that should be considered overweight. I would venture to say that anything less than 300 pounds can probably fit into a seat without much spillage in my lap if I am sitting next to this portly person.

 

Poem: Wings

Wings

If only I had wings, I would fly away
So much pain and suffering to endure
Twelve long years of abuse, verbal and otherwise
I raise my head towards the heavens,
hands open wide
ready to accept assistance that has not yet reached me
Who can hear my silent pleas?
Who will rescue me?
My childhood has been like living in an eternal winter
Barren, cold darkness
Frigid air numb my nerve endings
Permafrost stunt my growth and transformation
Unable to move as my heartbeat slows
It yearns to escape by any means
I will pray in anticipation for my wings
My deliverance is sure to come


Poem inspired by mixed media artwork entitled "Flight" by Tyrone Geter (Elgin, SC)

You are not the father- the aftermath

This is sad

 

http://justkhaotic.com/2012/01/crime/man-shoots-girlfriend-in-front-of-jail-after-learning-that-he-is-not-the-father-of-her-children/

 

I think about the Maury talk show where  he does paternity tests. When he says, “You are NOT the father,” the crowd goes wild. The man usually jumps up and down in relief. He might even yell at the woman some sort of exclamation how he knew it and she was trying to trick him. Meanwhile, the woman has to deal with the shame of not knowing who the father of her child really is. It is at this point, that she should have a meeker attitude and come to terms with the fact that she was way too promiscuous and having too much unprotected sex at the time of her child’s conception. It all makes for some sort of entertainment.

 

The reality is that not every man is going to be happy at the prospect of finding out he has been cuckolded. With the stresses of life, some people have a very tenuous connection to reality. No one knows what will be the circumstances that lead them to snap. In this case, this man snapped after finding out that the he was not the father. I do not know if he wanted to be a real father that supported and took care of his children or not. But the fact of the matter is that she lied to him and he had to find out the truth from a paternity test. I feel sorry for this girl, her child, and her family. At the same time, I feel sorry for the man who was deceived for whatever length of time into believing that the child was his.

I think that if a woman has not been all together faithful to her boyfriend/husband, there is room for doubt whether or not that child is his. She needs to get the DNA paternity test. Deceit is not fair to possible father or the child.

Thinking in 4s

4 songs that I am addicted to

1.       Rolling in the deep - Adele

2.       Nessum Dorma – Three Mo Tenors

3.       Home – Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros

4.       Nine Million Bicycles – Katie Melua

4 things I cannot live without

1.       Sleep

2.       Food

3.       Cell phone

4.       Creative writing

4 memories I won’t forget

1.       June 1989 – baptism

2.       October 1998 – mom died

3.       December 2009 – international convention

4.       April 2011 – wedding day

4 words I cannot go a day without

1.       Really ?!?!?

2.       Love

3.       Eat

4.       No

 

Georgia anti-obesity ads

Wake up! Obesity is real. A child healthcare organization is trying to bring attention to the issue. The campaign has its supporters and of course there are those who criticize as too harsh.

http://www.hlntv.com/article/2012/01/04/are-georgia-anti-obesity-ads-too-harsh?hpt=hp_c2

Some people feel that this is going to further depress fat children so that they remain in a cycle dependence on food. I think that the ad campaign is a good thing.

The same people that criticize the campaign also say that the campaign should be targeted towards fast food restaurants that present unhealthy options instead of calling young people fat. I think that the campaign cannot go after the fast food industry because this is a capitalist market. Economic principles show that market changes happen because of change in supply or demand. As long as there is a demand for what they are offering, the fast food restaurants will present a supply of cheap, unhealthy foods to be sold. This campaign tries something different. It is focused to the parents and the children (the demand in the market equation). Currently, it is probably a correct assumption that children do not correlate their unhealthy eating habits with their obesity and health problems. If the parents and children demanded more healthier foods, then the fast food restaurants would change their supply to meet the change in market needs.

I do not think that this campaign is saying anything that is mean or unkind. If a child is overweight, that is a fact. Someone needs to tell that child that he/she is overweight and give the child the education and proper diet in order to reach a healthier weight. If the parents are going to be subject to the whims of their children, then it is the children who need to tell the parents what they want so that they can lose weight and be more healthy. It is true that some bullies might use this campaign as additional fodder when making fun of a fat kid, but, even without this campaign, children are bullied for being overweight.

When parents allow their children to eat a diet of French fries and chicken nuggets, there is no wonder that the child is so fat. Instead of teaching the child to be healthy, the parent tries to teach the child to be happy while obese. Keeping in mind that everyone should have some modicum of self-esteem despite their size, they also need to be a healthy weight for their body frame. Some may say this is a vain attempt to demonize those who are not skinny, but the campaign is talking about being healthy. Healthy people usually live longer and have a better quality of life because they are not as sick.

I am sure that it can be difficult for a parent to tell their child “No” to all that cheap processed food since it is a chore to go to the grocery store, buy and cook wholesome food on a daily basis. Parents need to be concerned with the diet of their children because it is their lives that is at stake. Parents that refuse to acknowledge the issue might end up with bigger problems for their children: hypertension, diabetes, and joint replacements. The sad part is that a lot of these conditions are avoidable because they are based on the nutrients or lack thereof that are put into our bodies.